Auspicious Wedding Dates & Matrimonial Homes

Sometimes, I get very strange requests from my clients, which puts me in a spot. More often than not, their fears are quite groundless. For example some people don’t like to get married in the latter half of the year, as it gives one the idea that the marriage will not last. Or they don’t want to get married in an odd month and the wedding day must not fall in the months, which family members were born. When referring to the lunar calendar to pick an auspicious wedding day, one should exercise a bit of flexibility and not put too much emphasis on taboos.

It is more important to take into account the couple’s respective time of birth to see if they harmonize with the proposed date. Bo ri (broken day), sui bo ri (broken age day), si li ri (four separations day), si jue ri (four extremes day), shang shou (the first day of every month in summer), eclipse of the moon, and the hai (one of the 12 Earthly Branches) day. These days are to avoid. If you want wealth and children, hold your wedding in the shen sha days that harmonize with the Five Elements. These are rather complex combinations, which I will attempt to explain as we move along. Most people think that weddings should not be held during the Qing Ming (Tomb Sweeping) Festival in the 3 rd lunar month or Chong Yang Festival in the 9 th lunar month, or the Ghost Month (Meng Lan Festival) in the 7 th lunar month. That is because we they believe Qing Ming and Chong Yang festivals are devoted to paying respects to ancestors (the dead), while the Ghost Month conjures up the idea of a phantom bride, an ominous start to a marriage! In reality, these taboos are quite groundless. However, I will avoid suggesting these three specific months when clients come to me for advice on a wedding date, not because there is anything wrong with the months. Rather, I do not want to add on to the psychological fear in them.